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Doulas, What are they? How can they assist you?

Get In Tune With Your Womb
by Alexandria Myles

Hello and welcome to my blog post on Doulas! My name is Alexandria and I am a mom of three, a wife, a traveler, a homeschooler, and a doula. I am also the host of my own podcast, “Cosmic Yoni,” where I share my journey and tips on womb health, breath work, energy work and more.

As a doula, I come from a holistic, natural background and bring that into my work. For women who are pregnant in labor, my role as a doula is to provide non-medical support for the mother. This support could be for the mom themselves, their spouse, or whoever is with them during labor. I believe that every woman deserves to have the support they need to make their birth experience as positive as possible.

In addition to my doula work, I am also a one-person team for my marketing consulting business, although I am starting to look into outsourcing some of the work. I understand the importance of balancing work and personal life, and I am always looking for ways to make my businesses run more efficiently.

So if you are looking for a doula who brings a holistic, natural approach to birth support, look no further! I would be honored to be a part of your birth journey and provide the support you need during this exciting time.

As a doula, I believe that it’s my responsibility to provide a safe and nurturing environment for women during their pregnancy, labor, and postpartum period. I have a holistic approach to my work and aim to offer emotional, physical, mental, and educational support to my clients. Whether it’s suggesting different comfort measures, reminding my clients to stay hydrated, or providing breaks for other members of the birth team, I am there to make the experience as smooth and stress-free as possible.

I also act as the “gatekeeper” between my clients and the outside world, making sure that they are able to make informed decisions and have their needs respected. For instance, if a client doesn’t want to go through a clinical exam or take pain medication, I am there to offer alternative options such as breathing techniques or different positions that can help cope with the physical labor.
Moreover, I am trained to support my clients through a wide range of reproductive experiences, including miscarriages, stillbirth, abortion, and postpartum care. I understand that every woman is unique and has different expectations and needs when it comes to childbirth, and that’s why I take the time to listen and ask questions. By doing so, I can tailor my support to each client’s individual needs and help them achieve their desired birth experience.

I am grateful for the opportunity to answer all the questions that my clients may have, as I believe that open and honest communication is the key to a successful birth experience. Whether you’re considering a natural birth, epidural, or something in between, I am here to support and guide you every step of the way.

My journey as a doula started long before I even knew what a doula was. I had my daughter when I was 17 and breastfed her until she was almost two, while also finishing my senior year in high school and starting college. When my friends started having children, they would come to me with questions, and I found myself answering them based on my own experiences. I even provided support during a few of my friends’ births.

It wasn’t until 2017 that I found out what a doula was and decided to take a course and get certified. I have been working as a certified doula ever since, and I love it. My background is in the medical field but it’s sad I didn’t know what a doula was until years later.

Many women don’t know what a doula is, and that’s okay. But now I understand how important a doula can be. A doula is a support person for the person giving birth, and I believe that every woman deserves to have someone by her side to help guide her through this special and transformative experience.

Unfortunately, the medical system can be incredibly frustrating and unaccepting, especially for black women. No matter who you are or what your education level is, it seems like the medical system is just not set up to treat you right. That’s why I believe that doulas are so important. I am there to ask the questions that need to be asked, to speak to the doctors and nurses on behalf of the person in labor, and to break down medical information in layman’s terms.

During the birth process, the woman giving birth is not always in a mental state to fully understand what’s going on. That’s where I come in. I am there to make sure that they have someone to support them, to answer their questions, and to help guide them through this exciting but also challenging time. I am dedicated to helping women have the best birth experience possible, and I would be honored to do the same for you.

As a soon to be mother, it can be overwhelming to understand everything that is happening during labor and delivery. That’s where a doula can be a valuable asset, as they can help break down medical procedures and procedures in a way that is easy to understand.

One specific example is internal fetal monitoring, where a small metal spiral is inserted into the baby’s head to monitor their vital signs. Unfortunately, many women aren’t informed of this procedure until after it has happened or until they notice a spot on their baby’s head and ask what it is. This lack of consent and transparency is a concern for many expecting mothers, and it’s where the role of a doula becomes even more important.

A doula can ask the right questions, ensuring that the birthing person is informed of what is happening and what tools are being used. This way, the mother can be alert and informed, which can help alleviate any fears or concerns they may have. For many women, the lack of information and transparency can be a source of stress during an already emotional and intense time.

As a parent, I’ve been through the ups and downs of pregnancy and what it means to bring a new life into this world. One of the things that always stuck with me from my doula training class was a story shared by one of the women in my class. She revealed that two of her babies had actually been subjected to the procedure of internal fetal monitoring that was discussed in class, and she had no idea until we went through the training and she saw how it looked. This made her break down in tears, and it left me wondering if the procedure actually hurts the baby.

The question of whether or not babies feel pain is a controversial one, with some doctors even suggesting that they don’t. This is despite the fact that in the past, doctors would spank babies in order to make them cry, implying that they do have the ability to feel pain. In my opinion, it doesn’t make any sense to say that babies don’t have any pain receptors at one point in time and then turn around and say that they do at another. I firmly believe that babies have clear pain receptors throughout their development.

Another concern of mine for parents-to-be is the science behind babies and pregnancy. Babies can’t communicate or talk, and they’re still developing, so it’s hard to know exactly what’s happening to them. This is what scares so many women the most. This fear can become a cycle, and while I know I can help them by getting them in tune with their wombs, it still freaks them out before I break everything down to them, educating and showing them new techniques to use so they are confident and better prepared.

In conclusion, having a doula present during labor and delivery can be incredibly helpful for many reasons, one of which is the ability to advocate for the mother and ensure that they are informed and comfortable with what is happening during their delivery.

If you are considering having a baby or pregnant already, I encourage you to consider hiring a doula. We can make a big difference in ensuring that your birth experience is positive and empowering. I would be honored to support you in any way I can.

Thank you for reading my blog post and I look forward to hearing from you soon!

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